What are we defending?

When we get angry, or defensive, and argue with others, what are we actually defending?

Is it more about being right for the sake of that alone, to win, to be right than anything else?

Is it more about defending our self-image?

Could be that we are more fearful of being wrong, the threat to our very existence almost?

If we paused and thought ‘why am I arguing?’ would we argue as much?

Doing things for the self-image

How much of what we do on a day-to-day basis is actually of any real purpose or meaning for our lives?

Perhaps a lot of what we do is to be seen to be doing things for the sake of our self-image in front of others or own mind’s eye, our egos.

We are obsessed with proving to others our capabilities or achievements when we have actually have no need to prove anything to others or ourselves at all. It is for a fear of being not good enough or own self-worth.

If we stopped doing things for the sake of our egos and did things that are truly important and have meaning, then what would life be like? Perhaps, we would not need to be right all the time? Maybe we would have better relationships with others as there would be less competitiveness.

Our egos get in the way of life, we are all already worthy regardless of what we do.

It’s not what we think matters in the eyes of others or in our own mind’s eye, it is doing what really matters in our hearts regardless of what others may think.