Being you

The best thing in the world to do is be you.

Yet strangely it is the hardest to achieve.

It requires us to let go of our internal self-image that the mind will protect at all costs.

This requires taking a step off the highest diving board with no experience. But gradually it gets easier. It requires us to observe our mind and what that inner voice is saying without any judgement, simply listen to it.

Like a toddler throwing a tantrum, the less we react the more the tantrum subsides. So with the thoughts in our minds, which are primarily engaged with the past bad things that happened to us or invented bad things that are going to happen to us, if we leave them alone and simply listen, they subside as we feed them no energy.

If we give recognition to the negative thoughts of our mind and it’s constant effort to preserve this image we have created of ourselves, so it continues. Let go of this image and we can be truly ourselves.

It’s a hard path but one worth trying as real peace and happiness come when we are just us instead of being controlled by our minds.

When we are unsure

When we are unsure what to do or what to say in situations in life, we often stay stuck or try to second guess what the other person might want or we want to avoid offending so we end up being wishy-washy and uncertain.

The best strategy is to be 100% us. What would I want the other person to do or say if they were in my shoes? That is the best thing to do. Say what we’d want to hear, do what we’d want to receive.

We can never second guess the response of others and some will like what we do and say and many won’t. However, the ones who like what we do and say will love us more if we are genuinely 100% ourselves.

Trust comes from being genuine not trying to please everyone and seeking to avoid offence.