The uncomfortableness of kindness

We do not know how to accept kindness.

We feel have to reciprocate.

We expect a burden.

So we resist.

We think there’s a catch.

Or we feel beholden to the kind person.

True kindness is always without expectations and comes from our soul, from our true essence and we do it because it brings us joy not for a return.

However, we are conditioned into the ‘one good turn deserves another mentality’ and therefore, there is much false kindness, that is really manipulating others as there are conditions and expectations.

This is why we have become uncomfortable with kindness.

The simple way to change this is by example, to only offer unconditional kindness from the heart, where it is our joy that is the focus and not getting something.

Simply us

The version of us that others choose to create in their minds is not our responsibility, it’s up to them what they choose to create.

We can’t control it either and it doesn’t matter, as that is their choice and it is only their mind’s view of us, nothing more and nothing less.

We spend a great deal of energy on concerning ourselves with other people’s views of us, a thing that we have no control over when instead, we could choose to expend that energy on being grateful for who we truly are and sharing that with the world care-free of other people’s judgements.

A place of gratitude is more peaceful and positive than a place of fear and anxiety of others.

We are not the other person’s version they hold of us. We are simply us.