Our behaviour at any one moment in time is based on our level consciousness at that moment. It can’t be any other way. That’s the same for others.
That does not mean that our choices or others are always the choices we would make in a different moment. It does mean that we are good or bad, it is just what we are at that moment.
You could choose to lie but labelling someone a liar for a single choice is condemning them to be always bad, always lying and no room to ever change.
It does not mean either that it is an excuse to behave in an unkind way to others and once we are conscious of our bad choices then we can not keep doing something regardless of its consequences.
However, we all make choices that a later version of ourselves may not make and we may become more conscious. That doesn’t mean we can judge others for what we perceive to be wrong choices.
Let others be and accept them and equally, let ourselves be and accept what is now as what is.
Every new moment is a chance to change our behaviour to what we feel is the right choice for us now. We are not what we or others label us.
Yet we condemn others to a labelled set behaviours, judged by us, that they are stuck with and we expect them to be able be ‘better’. Yet we excuse our own poor choices.
We are all on our journey, we rarely know what is happening in the world of the people we so easily judge, and condemn forever, as that person.
We are not our choices and behaviours, we can change in an instance. We learn as we go along our path, the universe provides us all with challenges and lessons to learn from.
Allow others to face theirs and learn without writing them off. We are all just human souls on journeys of learning.