The more we want something to happen, the less it does.
If we accept what is and allow things to happen as they are and let life unfold without any pressure, then what is meant to be will happen.
Of course, we may not be happy with what unfolds, but if we accept that within that everything happens as it is meant to and is outside of our control, then we can be at peace within whatever the outcome.
There are no good or bad experiences, only learning. It is the mind that wants to label things good or bad and as a result, we allow ourselves to suffer.