When we search outside ourselves for someone or something to fulfil us, to bring us happiness, to fix us, to…whatever, it never brings us anything other than disappointment.
We place an expectation on things, events, other people and so on, however, it always fails as things, people etc will always fall short of our expectation.
Suffering is the difference between expectation and what actually is.
With other people, this expectation creates a burden on them, and this causes them suffering too.
Expect nothing of the exterior world and seek all that you want of it within you. We are here to create our own happiness and when we focus on that, all our energies shift and we are free from disappointment and expectation, it frees others too.
Inner acceptance of ‘what is’ does not need to be confused with outward acceptance.
Accepting what is and others as they are and as this moment is, enables us to be at peace, however, it does not mean we agree with it or are happy about it. Of course, we might be, but accepting inside is not agreement. It just means we are making a conscious choice not to suffer from what is, something that can not be change.
If we then choose to voice our view or act, it is from a place of calm and free from egoic attachment to the outcome, and again, removing any suffering from other peoples’ reactions.
Surrendering to what has already occurred and what other people are is not being a ‘doormat’ or weak, it is strength to be able to free ourselves from the resistance to what we can not change.
Inside is what counts as it is the only thing we can control.