People, things and action

Often we do things in life and we do it only out of an attachment to doing that thing.

We rarely stop to consider what is the purpose of doing it.

Strangely, the same pattern occurs with objects and stuff. We accumulate stuff without really knowing why and we become attached to it and keep it, often without knowing why too.

We have an obsession with becoming attached to people, actions, things and so on.

These mental attachments are there to people, things, actions, places without us being conscious of them. However, the mind controls us with these obsessions and brings suffering to us both mental and physical. In a conscious state we see these things for the mind patterns that they are an then we can move on from them and become detached from the hold on us.

What if we lived without attachment and only be with people from choice but not glued to them, owning things that had a purpose but were free to get rid of them without any upset and doing stuff that actually mattered and enriched our lives, again without the mental millstone of having to do it out of attachment?

I guess we’d be happier, we’d have a lot more time, a whole lot less stuff, surrounded by people who loved us for what we truly are and we’d be free from the constraints of having to mentally hold onto everyone, everything and every action. We would be free from emotional drains, free from our thoughts, free to be ourselves.

Become unattached.

Meaningful pain

Despite what the latest Instagram post or the happy-clappy gurus on Facebook chant every morning, we can not always be happy, shit happens and always will.

The thing is without meaningful pain we can not and will not suffer enough to learn lessons and to be determined to move forward.

Suffering without meaning equals despair and that can bit be sustained by anyone, but if you’ve read Frankl’s “man search for meaning” you’ll know he survived unimaginable pain and suffering because he had a purpose. The greater the meaning, the lower or even no despair. Chip Conley’s “Emotional Equation” book explains it so well, definitely worth a read.

Happiness is peddled as something we need to strive for as it makes money and often happiness is linked to material consumption, working harder, achieving grades etc.

Of course, happiness is good, but so is pain too, well meaningful pain.