We imprison ourselves

We build a life through our own imagined self-image and imprison ourselves in it. We stay stuck in jobs, with friends, with partners and so on, fearing to break free, fearing to upset, fearing to be our true selves. We go against our true self, we resist it, we allow ourselves to be trapped in our self-created imaginary life.

We become attached to things and people, and even when we instinctively want to do something or get rid of something, we stay trapped in the attachment we have built. We do not accept that every form is temporary and we are flowing on a journey. Not everything has to be there forever, we can move on from things, people, jobs and so on.

Freedom is being truly ourselves and not being attached or dependent on things or others.

Dependency

Dependency on others for our sense of worth, joy and fulfilment leads to resentment and a feeling of burden in them, and in us a feeling of disappointment when they are not satisfied by them.

Our fulfilment and joy are within. If we look inward instead of outward, we’ll find all that we need. We do not need others to be at peace, to have joy and to be fulfiled. That does not mean we do not want to spend time with others, it is simply removing the dependency element. True belonging is not about fitting in and relying on others, it is about being authentically ourselves and true.

Love being with others but do not depend on them, we’ll be happier and so will they.