When we come from a place where we look for the good in what we do and see things how others see our work we start to get even better at what we do. When we start with kindness towards ourselves we change the internal narratives.

We have been conditioned to be our own biggest critic and that comes from the mind and its fears. Add to that the cultural norm of ‘you can do better’ mentality instilled in us from our formative years in order to satisfy the egos of others and to prepare us for a life of servitude to working for others. It creates a default reaction of self-criticism and it is a shield we put up to ‘protect’ ourselves from the perceived judgement of others. However, this behaviour only serves to affect our self-esteem and causes us to suffer within.

We never feel inspired or motivated after beating ourselves up.

However, if we choose to be our biggest fan instead then we are proud of our work and we grow in self-confidence and we feel good.

It inspires us to build on what we have already achieved and to look positively on what we have done not what we didn’t do or did badly in our eyes.

When we focus on what we did well we free ourselves from the negative energy of looking at what we think we did wrong.

Lastly, we are all already worthy of love and belonging from the moment we wake up in the morning to the moment we go to sleep, no matter what we did or didn’t do that day.

Show up

If you ever feel like life is dealing you a bad hand or you’re not getting what you deserve, then stop and think, do I show up in my life? Or am I expecting others to show up and deliver things for me?

Do you perhaps tell yourself it is bad luck, or others are better?

If, hand on heart, you can answer ‘yes, I always show up’ then you won’t be feeling unlucky, or like you are being dealt a bum hand and life will be going well.

Showing up is the only way to create what you really want in life. That means matching your action with your thoughts or words. Staying true to your values wherever possible is a key component in showing up.

Stand up and put your hand ‘in the fire’, not in some macho way, but be true to yourself, deliver what you say inside your head and keep going, keep showing up no matter how hard it is.

A major part of success is about commitment and no letting yourself down, it is about being there when it is hard, when you don’t feel like it, and staying brave. It is about repetition and doing daily steps to keep your momentum going.

Showing up has a huge reward, like any habit, the more you do it, the easier it becomes, the results engender more confidence and there’s a massive feel good factor that encourages more action.

So when we feel like not going, not doing, not taking action, remember that if you don’t show up in your life, then you end your momentum, you destroy your credibility with others and more importantly with yourself.

It is always harder to start something than it is to keep it going. The longer you keep it going the more the habit becomes ingrained and will become routine and easy.

Show up for yourself, we owe it to ourselves.