Critics

When we come from a place where we look for the good in what we do and see things how others see our work we start to get even better at what we do. When we start with kindness towards ourselves we change the internal narratives.

We have been conditioned to be our own biggest critic and that comes from the mind and its fears. Add to that the cultural norm of ‘you can do better’ mentality instilled in us from our formative years in order to satisfy the egos of others and to prepare us for a life of servitude to working for others. It creates a default reaction of self-criticism and it is a shield we put up to ‘protect’ ourselves from the perceived judgement of others. However, this behaviour only serves to affect our self-esteem and causes us to suffer within.

We never feel inspired or motivated after beating ourselves up.

However, if we choose to be our biggest fan instead then we are proud of our work and we grow in self-confidence and we feel good.

It inspires us to build on what we have already achieved and to look positively on what we have done not what we didn’t do or did badly in our eyes.

When we focus on what we did well we free ourselves from the negative energy of looking at what we think we did wrong.

Lastly, we are all already worthy of love and belonging from the moment we wake up in the morning to the moment we go to sleep, no matter what we did or didn’t do that day.

What encourages learning?

We always look for what went wrong.

What if we choose to look at what we could do even better?

There are no good or bad things in life, it is all an opportunity to learn.

Learning works best when we see where we can do even better. If we take a positive approach to it, it encourages us to grow to a higher version of ourselves. We see ourselves as already worthy, already good enough, which we all are no matter what.

Growth is all personal and there is no right or wrong, it is up to us what we want to expand into and to enhance ourselves. Staying as we are is also a choice, it does not matter.

What matters is not to focus on the negative energy of what we are conditioned to believe is failure as the mind will use it as a continual stick to beat ourselves with in the future. This does not encourage learning.

What encourages learning is acceptance of who we are and feeling worthy no matter what. It then becomes a platform where we can positively choose to enhance ourselves to a higher version, one that we set and not others.