What we have constructed

Just think how many times we have bought something, liked something, eaten something, done or said something, even partnered someone because it fitted out story and our ego.

Yet deep down we sensed the things our the people weren’t right for us.

Just think how much simpler and joyful we would be if we followed our soul, our true essence and heart. If we went with our real feelings and not acted to be popular, fit in or live to a lifestyle that fits the self image our mind at its ego have constructed.

It’s a choice we can make.

The uncomfortableness of kindness

We do not know how to accept kindness.

We feel have to reciprocate.

We expect a burden.

So we resist.

We think there’s a catch.

Or we feel beholden to the kind person.

True kindness is always without expectations and comes from our soul, from our true essence and we do it because it brings us joy not for a return.

However, we are conditioned into the ‘one good turn deserves another mentality’ and therefore, there is much false kindness, that is really manipulating others as there are conditions and expectations.

This is why we have become uncomfortable with kindness.

The simple way to change this is by example, to only offer unconditional kindness from the heart, where it is our joy that is the focus and not getting something.