We all fall into this, telling others what they should do or think, often with aggression and force, especially if it is something that generates a lot of emotions within us. We become righteous and indignant with others who aren’t on our side.
‘You should vote’, ‘you should be this’, ‘you should be that’, ‘you should eat only this’ and so on. ‘We are right’ and that justifies our act of telling others.
The challenge with this strategy is that whether we are right or wrong, it is just our opinion and people are able to hold a different one without being told. It is no one’s place to tell others, especially as no one likes being told what to do or their opinion is wrong. It never warms people to another view and instantly creates a barrier.
Change comes from within and showing our example to the world and perhaps inspiring them to follow our lead.
Shocking is no longer shocking anymore, we’ve heard and seen it all 24/7 on the media, social media and from our drama filled lives.
If your tactic is to shock people into responding and changing, it isn’t working, we’re all anaesthetised and prefer to look at fluffy cat pictures, pics of someone else’s lunch or play another level of Candy Crush. We sooth it all away with our addictive behaviours…food, sex, drugs, alcohol, gaming, gambling, TV and so on. It’s like water off a ducks back.
The thing that works is what we do to lead. For example, don’t be outraged by litter, pick some up, don’t be upset and post about how terrible homeless peoples lives are, do something to help them ourselves.
Words and shock matter not, our own action and example change the world.
As a famous person said ‘if you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping in a room with a mosquito’.