I’ve discovered rather painfully, on more than one occasion in life, that learning for me is tough.
It requires me to understand others and me, which means listening.
It then requires a willingness to change and to realise that the choices that I’ve made and continue to make, have consequences for me and others.
It requires me to leave the right and wrong behind and to be accountable, responsible but free from reproaching me and others.
Learning is one of the hardest things I have to do.
I realised most of all that I can only do it if I want to.
If learning was easy, perhaps I’d be smart, but the struggle of learning makes all that more satisfying and lasting.
On with the struggle, the baby steps to learning pay off if I’m patient.
Sometimes as humans we need to discuss awkward and uncomfortable things.
We can choose to head to Netflix or pretend they are not there, but that is ducking out of our responsibility to our fellow humans and is letting ourselves down too.
We all form the world that we live in and that means that each and every one of us needs to be part of the dialogue.
There is a great Facebook Live with Brene Brown, whose work I am a great fan of, and she is discussing the very touchy subject of race and it is well worth a 20-minute watch – click here. This clearly demonstrates the point and she puts it with greater depth and eloquence.
We need to discuss, not hate or criticise, difficult topics, as that is the only way to move forward as a human race. We’ve tried the authoritarian and hate approach and it has been a miserable failure so far.
Next time there is a challenging and uncomfortable thing to discuss, we need to step up and get involved, why wouldn’t you?