Making change positive

Other people are always right. They right about how they feel, the opinions they have, their choices and so on. It is what they choose to do.

If you want to communicate with them, you’ll need to get that concept.

We all like our own opinions, views and choices.

No one responds well to be told they are wrong, especially in an aggressive way.

Yet so many people who set out with zeal to change the world do so in a confrontational manner.

If change-makers accepted that it’s not their place to change others and focused on positively inspiring by example, then people may choose to follow their example.

If they don’t that’s their choice and they aren’t wrong, they are just having a different view.

Showing not telling

It’s always more inspiring and likely to change others if we are the example, if we are ‘pro’ something, if we show an alternative, if we lead by doing rather than shouting down something different.

Too often those who seek change are ‘anti’ what they do not like, but show no alternative and do not always lead, they simply are negative about someone else’s idea, view, plan, system…negativity does not inspire someone with a different view to change, they simply react negatively. No one likes to be told by another that their view is wrong. It does not provoke a positive reaction.

The world is always a reflection of our transmissions, what we put out is what returns, our signal attracts the same.

Positive examples send out positive vibes and encourage people to consider something different, without feeling like they were being attacked for their views.

Right and wrong are irrelevant, after all, opinions are just that, an opinion, a temporary mental form, and as there is no book of ‘what’s right’, we can only hope to influence change, not tell others that they are in the wrong.

Showing not telling.