When we fight against our feelings, especially the negative ones, they do not go away. They become energised and grow.
Often when I get angry, I get angry about being angry. I tell myself I should just be floating on a cloud, all calm and zen-like. ‘I know how to deal with this…I shouldn’t be angry’ is what I tell myself and that causes more anger!
However, all feelings are there for a reason and we could choose to welcome them. To learn why we feel that way and to use it as our guide.
Funnily, the moment we accept and welcome our negative states, the sooner they subside and go. Energy goes where our focus goes and resistance and fighting something is a negative energy.
The world focuses on exterior beauty and we measure ourselves cruelly against others through the lenses of accepted standards of beauty in society.
Of course, within we suffer as we perceive that we are not beautiful. It is now so pervasive and corrosive in society that it has become as serious as life and death, that’s how powerful the collective mind is once we become attached to it. We become our thoughts.
Others are more beautiful and thus the untrue internal negative narratives and negative thoughts run repetitively leading to manifesting unfounded behaviours and unkindness inwardly to ourselves.
Truly beautiful people are those who have focused their energies on realising that we become beautiful on the inside and they manifest that beauty through their beliefs about what beauty really is. Those people then radiate that beauty and light on the exterior too. Not in a cosmetic or societal way but in a soulful and wonderful way. They are beautiful souls who realise that we are all truly the same within, equal and worthy in every way.
The external shaming and judgement of our ‘beauty’ can only make us suffer if we choose to align with the falsehood that beauty is an external thing. Visual external beauty is subjective and judgement based which are all created by the individual and collective minds. Thus they are all temporary, opinion-based whims that lack any soulful substance, yet we create our inner image based on such nonsense.
Shallow definitions of beauty accepted by the collective and individual minds and egos are a cause of suffering for us all. However, those who let go of those definitions and create beauty within first will spread that beauty in a non-judgemental and uplifting way to the world. The true beauty that is life is what we all have as an amazing gift that cannot ever be judged or evaluated.
When we stop looking in the mirror to see if we are worthy and beautiful and start to be kind, loving, compassionate, empathetic, understanding and patient with ourselves and simply be without evaluation of others, then we will feel our own beauty within. Becoming beautiful within ourselves through our beliefs and allowing our true essence to flourish manifests pure beauty inside and out without an agenda. We have detached ourselves from our ego and therefore we can become beautiful.
When we let go of the craving to be seen as beautiful by the minds of others and respect ourselves, honour our values, be true to ourselves, concentrate on the inside then we see ourselves as beautiful as a soul.
Beauty is an inside job. What if we started teaching to look within and create our beauty inside?