It’s our resistance to things that cause the pain.
Even more so when we are aware of something, we know that’s not what we want and then we get angry about being angry, or frustrated about being frustrated, or sad that we are sad and so on. We fight the reaction, we resist the feelings, we try to squash our emotions.
If we give space for our feelings, thoughts, emotions and let them be, just observing and letting it be there, then there is no resistance, no fight and they dissolve without more emotion, thought or reaction.
We are always looking for a reason as to why we feel a certain way. Why we are angry, sad, emotional, frustrated or whatever.
The thing is, it doesn’t matter what the reason is and when we let whatever we are feeling just be, accepting that is what is and how we are feeling in this moment, then there is no resistance, no negativity and it will soon pass or not, again it doesn’t matter. Peace comes from accepting everything that is and allowing it space to be, not fighting it within.
When we start to analyse, that is, in fact, the mind that is playing up, wanting an answer, usually so we can blame another person or something that happened as the cause of our internal state. Our internal state is always our responsibility.
Accepting how we feel now and letting it be is the best way to let go and move on and to stop suffering within. It never matters why.