To only see others through the judgemental filters of our mind is a form of violence and unkindness towards another living soul.
When we reach a point where we can view other human souls as their pure being without the need to label, judge, or form an opinion of them, then we are able to see them as they truly are in their pure form.
Only then can our light and spirit connect with the light and spirit in others.
When we have a position to defend, we act out of anger, frustration, rage, we become the emotion and it then causes the other person to react and defend too.
When we are conscious and we have let go of the ego, then we express our opinion or act free of attachment to the view, we simply voice our opinion and do not have to fight to be right, after all, it is just a view.
The reaction from the other is very different and the outcome too.
It has to be defended when we are controlled by the ego.