It has to be defended

When we have a position to defend, we act out of anger, frustration, rage, we become the emotion and it then causes the other person to react and defend too.

When we are conscious and we have let go of the ego, then we express our opinion or act free of attachment to the view, we simply voice our opinion and do not have to fight to be right, after all, it is just a view.

The reaction from the other is very different and the outcome too.

It has to be defended when we are controlled by the ego.

Love of others

We do not love the flesh, blood, bones of others, love is the connectedness with the essence, soul and being of all others.

If we take away the lens of thought about others, which removes the opinions, judgements, criticisms, and other negative emotions, then our souls can connect with the essence of all other beings.

Love is not an emotion it is from our very essence.