Showing not telling

It’s always more inspiring and likely to change others if we are the example, if we are ‘pro’ something, if we show an alternative, if we lead by doing rather than shouting down something different.

Too often those who seek change are ‘anti’ what they do not like, but show no alternative and do not always lead, they simply are negative about someone else’s idea, view, plan, system…negativity does not inspire someone with a different view to change, they simply react negatively. No one likes to be told by another that their view is wrong. It does not provoke a positive reaction.

The world is always a reflection of our transmissions, what we put out is what returns, our signal attracts the same.

Positive examples send out positive vibes and encourage people to consider something different, without feeling like they were being attacked for their views.

Right and wrong are irrelevant, after all, opinions are just that, an opinion, a temporary mental form, and as there is no book of ‘what’s right’, we can only hope to influence change, not tell others that they are in the wrong.

Showing not telling.

Attachment to our opinions

The challenge with attachment to our opinions is it means we have to defend them. If we are adamant internally that our opinion is right no matter what, then our ego is at stake and we have to defend them to the ‘death’. Well actually, very often it is literally to the death. This damages our relationships with others and causes us suffering within.

Opinions are just a view, a temporary mental form, and there is no right or wrong and if we accept that they just that and place no personal attachment to them, then there is no need to fight, no need to resist any other view and no need to experience any negative emotions when others do not agree with our view.

Surrendering to acceptance of things is not weakness, it is a strength, that you can let go and accept others and their views for what they are. It doesn’t prohibit ourselves from expressing our views whenever, however, it just stops the pain and suffering of defending our views at all costs and stops affecting our relationships with others.