When we are ready

The obvious can be staring us in the face, everything can point to the change, we know it deep down, others whose guidance we trust can tell us and yet we stay stuck.

We can only move forward when we are ready to and when we accept what is and let go.

This can be frustrating for the onlooking well-intended advisors, but it is not up to them. Change is an inside job where we need to be willing to let go of the pain, of being a victim, to let go of the reasons not to, to be at peace and relieve the pressure to match the invented self-image in the mind.

When we accept we are worthy no matter what and when we come from a place of acceptance and peace we will have clearer, focused and growth mindset.

We just need to accept then we will be ready to change.

Everything is good

I saw this on a bag today and it made me think about when people say that ‘everything is great’.

Firstly, it never is, and why people want to say that is the fear of being seen as a failure or they feel they have to fit in. We don’t have to fit in.

Perhaps the happiness guru has memed them into believing we should always be ‘great’, ‘amazing’ or ‘awesome’ or in fact, all three of them and skipping as we say it.

Second, and most important, if everything is great where is the struggle we need to become even better? What is the point of carrying on if everything is going amazing all the time?

We need the shit and the struggle to give our lives purpose and meaning. Of course, not all the time. But if it’s always good, then there is no balance, no bad. So it’s not good or bad, just nothing.