Not meant to be

Knowing when enough is enough is always difficult when the thing or person we are chasing, or pushing, or trying to control involves a mind-attachment. When a thing or person become part of our story, we attach a mental ownership of them or it. We can not accept not being able to control it or them, we cling on no matter what.

This is where we are suffering from loss, or rejection or they or it is not how we want them or it to be. We are in pain from not being able to control.

Suffering always comes from denial of what is, the lack of acceptance causes resistance within and in the exterior world, which brings the pain to us and to others.

We feel the need to control or manipulate and fix others, or situations, like they are ours.

When we accept that the only thing we can control is ourselves and that if we try to control, manipulate, or fix others it will always lead to pain for us and for them.

Let everything be as it is, let others be as they are and if we just be, without intent or attachment, then we can all be at peace. When we try to create something by trying to control things it never happens. If we just be our true essence, then things will unfold as they are meant to be.

Somethings are not meant to be as we want, accept it and be at peace. What we already have right now is always all we need, we just need to focus on what we have and be grateful.

The choice about being right

Wanting to be right causes a great deal of suffering within and for the world in general.

‘I’m right’, of course, naturally, and so say 8 billion other human souls inside their minds. We can’t all be right all the time, it’s not possible.

What is ‘right’ anyway? A strange concept that our mind clings onto about us holding the truth over others.

The truth is always subjective and right or wrong do not matter, except to the ego and the collective ego. They are all just mythical mental concepts constructed by the ego to enable us to be superior to another.

The ego will protect itself and being right at all costs. Untold cost to itself and others is caused over being right or not. How many human lives have been lost and untold suffering to millions over someone not willing to be wrong.

Fearing of being wrong and the humiliation of it is very powerful and admitting that their view may not be right is too painful for most to contemplate. Better to continue the suffering.

If however, we accept that nothing is in fact right or wrong, it is all subjective, if we accept that our views are just views, a temporary mental construct based on our mind’s filtering of the world, then we can break our egotistical attachment and end the suffering for ourselves and others. It is the negative impact of the resistance, the emotions that occur by reacting to a challenge to our views that bring about the pain for us and others.

The only true thing is this eternal unfolding present moment, now, where our actual real life occurs, here we can accept all, see that there is no view that matters right now and enjoy just being. We can let go of the ego, let go of our views and enjoy peace within.

It’s a choice, there is of course, no right or wrong.