Step away from it, when it is ticking in our head like an unexploded bomb that is about to go off, just walk away, physically and/or mentally. When the steam is rising and coming out of our ears, it is not going to get any better by staying involved.
When something has got to us, go and have a tea, a walk around the block, put on some music, find a funny video on YouTube, go and hug someone and let go.
Let go the instant that you feel you are becoming the reaction to the situation that is arising.
Just say ‘WTF’ inside or out loud and move on.
We can’t stop anger, well unless we remove a part of our brain.
It happens in the limbic brain and that is the strongest part of our brain and where all the inputs go first.
What we can choose though is how we react to that initial anger.
Nothing good comes from reacting with anger towards others.
Anger can be good to help us make changes in ourselves, as we are always really angry with ourselves, not others. It is things within us that spark anger, blaming others is a mask.
Best to do a ‘shitty’ first draft in our heads or even on paper before reacting. That way we give ourselves time to react in a way that will not anger others or further anger ourselves.
Like everything in life, we get to choose the outcome by choosing how we behave.