There are no winners in arguments. Two egos, or more sometimes, clash and it becomes like a fight, the mind sees it the same as a real physical threat and it will defend at all costs.
If your ego wins, sadly everyone loses, because every argument destroys a little bit in friendships and relationships.
If we stay away from our minds and ego, then we do not argue, as there is no point. It is so irrelevant to be right and in our conscious state, we can see the insanity of arguing.
Arguing is for the mind, not the soul.
We are attached to our views and the mind will want to defend them, as our fragile ego is at stake, it will defend them at all costs, in some cases, people die protecting what they believe to be right.
That is not just our opinions on so-called ‘important issues’, it will be our opinion on anything and everything, we will protect it tooth and nail.
If we allow ourselves to be free from these attachments, we can still voice our opinions, however, without it being a matter of life or death to defend them against opposite views. We can put them forward without a need to defend them, as we accept our self-worth is never derived from whether we are right or not, or how much we defend that position either.
Imagine how much fewer arguments, violence, wars and so on we’d have, if, we removed the ‘violence’ from, defence of, and attachment, to our views.
Right or wrong is a matter of our ego and the level of our attachment to it. Peace comes from acceptance of all views and the letting go of our position of righteousness.