What are we defending?

When we get angry, or defensive, and argue with others, what are we actually defending?

Is it more about being right for the sake of that alone, to win, to be right than anything else?

Is it more about defending our self-image?

Could be that we are more fearful of being wrong, the threat to our very existence almost?

If we paused and thought ‘why am I arguing?’ would we argue as much?