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What we believe matters and what actually matters are hugely different

Posted on by philipdodson

My mind has on average 60,000 thoughts a day and it wants me to take all of them seriously. It’s exhausting when I become engaged with my mindstreams, they drag me along and they are not creative, they are negative and assumption based, in fact, based on absolutely nothing other than its ramblings and the stories that it has created about me. All of them false. However, I choose to create them, believe them, and magnify them by adding to them constantly.

The mind patterns are repetitive and have been built up over a lifetime of falsehoods that I have chosen to believe about myself either created myself from negative thoughts or fueled by me believing what I think others think about me. This again is based on nothing other than my mind’s ramblings or something that another person’s mind has blurted out unconsciously and my mind has chosen to take seriously.

All these things we do to ourselves. None of it is done by others.

How do I change this?

I change it by realising that all these thoughts are just that, thoughts. Thoughts are temporary mental formations that will always be there and come constantly. The realisation many years ago that I am the observer of those thoughts and not those thoughts, I am the consciousness that is the witness of them and therefore I am not my mind and its thoughts. Of course, my mind is a part of me, like my ear or finger. But I am not the thoughts.

Once you realise that there is only one me, the soul, the ball of energy that my body faithfully takes on its journey, then you realise that none of these thoughts and stories matter. It only matters to be, as in to be my true essence, soul, and spirit and to live a life true to that in this moment creating experiences and sharing the gift that is uniquely mine.

I no longer want to be shackled by my thoughts and stories. I know what my gift is and my purpose and I want to be that, not my mind and its stories. Once I stop energising all those thoughts and stories my mind has space to help me manifest that gift and share it with the world.

My mind, like all of us, is the most amazing gift and the most amazing creative tool, that is what is there for, to help us, our true essence, soul, and being to manifest our gift for us and others.

Every one of us has a gift and our purpose is to discover it and give it to the world.

Am I 100% my true essence every day? Absolutely not, but I am on the path to achieving that. Will I achieve it in this lifetime? Maybe not, who knows, as the future does not exist beyond the ramblings of my mind. It doesn’t matter either, I’ll come back and continue the journey.

All that matters is this moment now, the eternal present moment where all life and experience exist. When we experience anything it is always now. If we stay in this ‘now’ moment we move beyond our thought and by simply being we are able to manifest our gift and create what we truly desire to create and experience.

That’s what matters not thousands of thoughts.

Critics

Posted on by philipdodson

When we come from a place where we look for the good in what we do and see things how others see our work we start to get even better at what we do. When we start with kindness towards ourselves we change the internal narratives.

We have been conditioned to be our own biggest critic and that comes from the mind and its fears. Add to that the cultural norm of ‘you can do better’ mentality instilled in us from our formative years in order to satisfy the egos of others and to prepare us for a life of servitude to working for others. It creates a default reaction of self-criticism and it is a shield we put up to ‘protect’ ourselves from the perceived judgement of others. However, this behaviour only serves to affect our self-esteem and causes us to suffer within.

We never feel inspired or motivated after beating ourselves up.

However, if we choose to be our biggest fan instead then we are proud of our work and we grow in self-confidence and we feel good.

It inspires us to build on what we have already achieved and to look positively on what we have done not what we didn’t do or did badly in our eyes.

When we focus on what we did well we free ourselves from the negative energy of looking at what we think we did wrong.

Lastly, we are all already worthy of love and belonging from the moment we wake up in the morning to the moment we go to sleep, no matter what we did or didn’t do that day.