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Safety is killing us

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The human race has evolved over hundreds of thousands of years and it is only in the last 20-30 years, in fact, maybe the last 10 years that we have been obsessed with removing all risks and seeking a guarantee for every single thing in life. We want no risk, yet we are the most depressed, disconnected, egotistical, addicted and unconscious humans to ever walk this earth.

How did the human race survive without all these obsessive regulations, sanitisation of all things and fear of everything including our own shadow?

The thing is safety removes innovation, removes taking the plunge into the unknown, it teaches fear, it encourages avoidance, it harms connection. Safety is fear that paralyses and risk is a fear of the unknown that once conquered enables the magic of life. Without any risk the purpose of life is negated, there is no experimenting with what might work, there is no innovation, there is no excitement, no thrill and no advancement of the human race. Fear used in an innovative, creative and risk-taking way is the source of all experience and adventure in life, if used like this it is our guide to the beauty of the unknown. That’s the very reason to leap out of bed each day and truly be brave enough to show up and be the leading role in our own film. Safety stops us having the difficult conversations and saying what we truly feel from our soul…it’s safer to say nothing.

Difficult conversations take vulnerability and bravery to step into the unknown and that is killed by this constant fear of stepping into the ring and showing up as it is deemed risky. Avoiding life in order to be under the illusion that we are prolonging life is crazy. Hiding from life to live longer. All fear boils down to fear of death and this falsehood that is peddled to us that safety is good is creating even more fears. Fear is a money maker when it is a psychological fear of the unknown that is the future. But safety does not allow us to overcome fear it simply puts up a ‘shield’ that we believe we are safe behind. However, it creates inner suffering of not being free and denying ourselves the adventure of life. We end up creating even more fear. It becomes a vicious circle. Taking a risk releases fear and suffering.

If we are to continue to evolve as a human race and advance and overcome the challenges that we face we have to go to the edge of the circle, to the wilderness, we have to cross the divide of different opinions and step into the other bubble. We can not stay in the safe centre hoping that we will stay safe and it will all go away like an ostrich burying its head in the sand.

If we want inclusivity and diversity, if we want equality, if we want a better environment, if we want less poverty, more opportunity for all, no wars, more freedom, better healthcare, better education, and no judgment or racism, then we have to be brave enough to listen to others, to empathise, to step out of our comfort and safety zones, we have to be vulnerable. And that is a big fucking risk and one that we can only take if we stop seeking safety in everything in life. We have to stop kidding ourselves that safety is safe and that risky is unsafe. It is the other way round.

Take the risk because safety is killing us.

What now? Talking it out in public

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What now?

I have been doing this blog every single day continuously for over six and half years, 2,407 days as of yesterday without missing a day. I have become stale and questioning whether to continue or not. This already feels like some drama that would normally play out on Facebook ‘please like my blog’ or ‘I hope people say ‘continue, we couldn’t cope without your blog”. But I have always liked talking out loud on my blog page, as most often, my blogs are really me giving myself a talking to.

I was originally inspired to do a daily blog by one of my heroes at the time, Seth Godin, who had been doing a daily blog for years and is still going strong today. I thought, laughing as I type, I’d be the next ‘Seth’ a bit like all the wannabe entrepreneurs are all going to be the next Google or whatever…and of course, some are.

I didn’t quite make Seth’s level of blogging in terms of fame, followers, and likes. But then I realised Seth Godin is a little bit more than just his blog!!!

I realise that if I want to be famous, which I do not, then it takes a lot more than blogging and it takes a completely different set of values to mine…no judgement here.

I used to write a daily writing journal too, on 750words, where you had to write 750 words minimum a day to get a tick in the box, and years later, and many million words I stopped doing it. I realised I was mainly doing it for the badges, yes they cleverly gamified it, and my ego, to tell others how amazing I was at commitment and writing blah blah blah! Look at me!! Also, in my newfound more spiritual self, laughing again as I type, like I’m the Buddha, that I was using the daily journal to just spit out all the ramblings and negative repeating thought patterns spinning in my head onto the screen of my online journal. So effectively energising the madness in my head further and prohibiting me from being in the moment more.

I wonder now if I am doing my blog for the ego, fearful now to stop, wanting to keep going for the bragging and for the internal glory of commitment and ‘I’m making a difference’.

Perhaps I feel I’ve said all I can, perhaps I’m fearful of making it more successful, and perhaps I’m not prepared to do the hard work it takes to get more noticed. After all, fear of success is a common sabotaging process of the mind. Perhaps, I’m fearful of writing more from my heart, less sitting on the fence and more being just me. Taking off the shackles.

Anyway, I’ve done another daily blog, hit publish, and move on. Will I be back tomorrow? Well, no one knows the future but I feel better for talking this out.