Accepting what is, is different from outwardly accepting everything passively that has occurred.
What has already occurred in the world, in life, at this exact moment can not be altered, as soon as it happens it instantly becomes the past, it is gone, unalterable. Therefore, for peace within and to not suffer from others’ actions, and for the sake of our mental and physical state, it is best to always accept it as it is, futile to do anything else.
However, that does not mean that we have to choose to be completely passive about everything that has occurred, equally, we do not have to be combative and aggressive either. When we accept all within, it allows us to act from a place of peace and calm within and without becoming the reaction that our mind and ego would want. Therefore, when we do act, it is more likely to be received without others needing to react aggressively. When we are calm, yet true to ourselves, others will be calm and more ready to hear us and understand us.
For example, I accept that there are people who choose to be cruel to animals, however, I am not going to be outwardly passive if witnessed someone being cruel to an animal, I would act to prevent it as it goes against my values.
There is a big difference between accepting what is and how we choose to act. Accepting what is, is essential to be able to act from a place of inner calm and take out our agendas and ego. However, if there are things that go against our truth, against our values, or threaten us or the people we love, then we can act and protect what matters to us.
Acceptance within is not about being uncaring or passive, it is about not suffering within from other peoples’ actions and choices. We can accept, however, we do not have to agree or be silent. We can choose how we act always, and sometimes there are situations where we choose to not act, this is fine too. However, we should never be fearful of saying our truths and acting according to our hearts and values.
I am me and no one else is me. I am uniquely me. The only me has wanted to be me and show that ‘me’ to the world all my life. Well, I am not there yet, however, I believe I am me now and that is the reality for me. We always create and manifest our reality by what we feel and believe.
I have decided that it is time to be fucking ‘me’ and stop the exhausting process of stopping ‘me’ from being seen.
Why have I done that? Fear. The mind has dominated and is fear based unlike the real me which is love based from my heart. That is what is dominating now.
I have been fearful of offending others, fearful that no one will like the real me, fearful of being alone, fearful of not being loved, fearful of judgement, fearful of being told off, and fearful of the consequences…fearful of everything.
I am 55 and I am still fearful of being me, of speaking my truth, of worrying about others and I have had enough. It is fucking exhausting and is preventing the world from seeing my true soul and more importantly from me being me and all the joy and freedom that will give me.
My true essence, like all human souls, is love and when I show that and speak that from my heart the real me will be visible to the world. I am a warrior, a person who accepts what is but is not passive. Surrendering to what is and accepting all that is allows us peace within but we do not have to be passive and apathetic. We do not have to be a doormat and we do not have to be what others want us to be. That does not mean we have to be aggressive or confrontational either, we just have to be our true selves. When we are at peace within we can speak from the heart and we do not have to fear anything anymore.
I want to get off the fucking bus and stop going along with the crowd as that is what is fucking easy and comfortable. I am not a warrior in the normal sense of what we have been told to understand. I am not looking to go out and kill and be aggressive. I am looking to love, nurture, bring together, unite and protect what matters…to speak up without fear. I am looking to share my gift. I am choosing to be proud of being who I am, of being a man, of being a loving human. I want to be seen and understood for who I truly am and I want to see and understand others as they truly are.
I am the warrior who is brave enough to be vulnerable and to be brave enough to speak my truth, to set my boundaries, to be brave enough to face my biggest fears and see them as a gift to guide me on my path and to be brave enough to get off the bus.
Am I there? no. Will I always be perfectly truly me all the time? No, I won’t, I am a human, an emotional being, I will have feelings, I will have anger, I will have fear, I will have many things, and I will make choices that I will reflect on and see they weren’t what reflected the true me.
All I am saying is that I want to go on the journey to being me, to be more awake, to be more conscious, to choose love first, being first and not waiting, I want to use fear as my guide and not my inhibitor.
I am exhausted with taking everything that others and my mind say seriously, I am tired of having an opinion on everything based on fucking nothing other than my mind and its ego. I am tired of holding back my voice and not respecting myself. I am exhausted from analysing everything.
For those who may feel uncomfortable, I understand and for those who want to move on, I understand that too. I know that when I am true to my values, to my heart, to love and the real me that I will attract my people to my life and that is what I want. I will attract people who see me as I am and who love me without conditions. That is what love is, it comes from the heart and is without condition. It is our default.
I am here as this current carnation just once, I do not want to spend any more of that not being me. I am releasing my warrior spirit and I am saying to myself each day “take off those fucking shackles and show up as me”. It’s tough. But that’s OK.
Is it going to be easy? NO. Is there anything in life that matters that is easy or that is without sacrifice? No. We are here for a purpose and that purpose is to experience and to be truly who we are without the suffering of denying ourselves that. To share that.
I am releasing my warrior spirit, choosing to love myself fully and to be me…it feels truly fucking amazing!
Philip Dodson 