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Do you want to be right or free and at peace?

Posted on by philipdodson

It’s a simple choice, being right or being free and at peace. You can’t be both.

When we are wrapped up with being right then others are wrong. We are winners and they are losers. There is the feeling of injustice when we enter the realm of right or wrong.

Our egoic mind state causes us to defend our views no matted what, we have to be right.

When we let go of the need to be right, we free ourselves from the battle, the negative energy and we remove the suffering we inflict on ourselves and others.

There is no right or wrong, just a view, a temporary mental construct. Views created by the unconscious mind, where our world view is tainted by the filters that our judgemental biased mind puts on everything.

When we choose to step away from that and become conscious and accepting of everything and everyone as they are now, then we can let go of the pressure to be right.

We can still have a view but we are no longer attached to it and therefore there is no more suffering.

Inner peace is a conscious state of unattachment where we realise that being right doesn’t matter.

When we stop the need to always be right then we free ourselves from the endless debilitating suffering that a sense of injustice causes. Injustice keeps us stuck in a maze of misery. Always wanting this reparations from another for being wrong and us being right.

If we stop the need to be right and others to be wrong, we can leave the maze and move forward with our lives.

All my life I wanted to be right and I finally seeing it simply doesn’t matter.

Assumptions

Posted on by philipdodson

When we assume what others are thinking without knowing we make judgements and take action based on that evaluation. Often, without the faintest idea, we say ‘I know what they are thinking’. This is based on nothing but our prejudices.

We often stay in that mode even when we do ask them, as we are only seeing them through the filter of our own lens of judgement.

We have already decided what they will say as we want it to match our assumptions. Then we can say ‘see, I knew that’s what they were thinking/meaning/saying…I am right’.

True listening means without any evaluation, all we do is simply hear the words of the other. This is the only form of listening. It is only possible when we do not make up stories about others based on assumptions our mind has made to fit in with the story we hold about them.

It’s best not to create stories about others or ourselves either. It is best to hear and see people as they are and not as our mind wants us to see them. It changes communication completely when we see and understand the other person as they truly are.