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Do you want to be right or free and at peace?

Posted on by philipdodson

It’s a simple choice, being right or being free and at peace. You can’t be both.

When we are wrapped up with being right then others are wrong. We are winners and they are losers. There is the feeling of injustice when we enter the realm of right or wrong.

Our egoic mind state causes us to defend our views no matted what, we have to be right.

When we let go of the need to be right, we free ourselves from the battle, the negative energy and we remove the suffering we inflict on ourselves and others.

There is no right or wrong, just a view, a temporary mental construct. Views created by the unconscious mind, where our world view is tainted by the filters that our judgemental biased mind puts on everything.

When we choose to step away from that and become conscious and accepting of everything and everyone as they are now, then we can let go of the pressure to be right.

We can still have a view but we are no longer attached to it and therefore there is no more suffering.

Inner peace is a conscious state of unattachment where we realise that being right doesn’t matter.

When we stop the need to always be right then we free ourselves from the endless debilitating suffering that a sense of injustice causes. Injustice keeps us stuck in a maze of misery. Always wanting this reparations from another for being wrong and us being right.

If we stop the need to be right and others to be wrong, we can leave the maze and move forward with our lives.

All my life I wanted to be right and I finally seeing it simply doesn’t matter.

I don’t care about being right anymore

Posted on by philipdodson

The story behind my latest tattoo and what it means to me:-

I blogged recently about the guy who quit his ‘successful’ big career to become a forest monk in Thailand. I recently read his book called ‘I may be wrong’ which was brilliant.

Well, his abbot at the monastery told the group of monks, including this guy Nathako, one night during his daily teachings about a mantra that would change their lives forever. He said when we you feel any conflict arising with another or even yourself simple say to yourself before doing anything ‘I may be wrong’ 3 or 4 times.

Then the conflict will go and you realise being right doesn’t matter.

For me, in my childhood, I was conditioned by my parents to be always right. It was like a badge of honour to be right and at any cost no matter what you had to do to be right and no matter what suffering was caused.

So it is a reminder to me when that pattern still comes in me, it does come still. Also, it is a recognition and a ‘hug’ to myself just how much I’ve changed and how far I’ve come on my journey and how far I still want to go.

This continued into my adult life until I learnt that nothing matters least of all being right.

It means so much to me to have that piece of art on my skin and I’m completely full of joy about it.

It’s all part of my journey to remove all the shackles that have held me back.

I increasingly want to have no opinion about anything. I know nothing and I really do not give a fuck about being right any more.