Tag: vulnerability

What’s outside the circle?

Posted on by philipdodson

Outside the circle, it is scary

Not everything that we do will be brilliant, we are not a machine, we are a human being and we will make some fuck ups. In fact, the more we do not care and the more we let go of fear, the more fuck ups we will make as we will be doing more.

Doing something requires a risk, stepping out of the safe middle of the circle where everyone else is and going to the edges or outside the circle entirely and into the wilderness.

This requires bravery, a willingness to say to ourselves ‘this might not work’.

However, if we want to create our dreams and do something that really matters to us and others, then we have to be prepared to go outside the circle where it is scary.

Critics

Posted on by philipdodson

When we come from a place where we look for the good in what we do and see things how others see our work we start to get even better at what we do. When we start with kindness towards ourselves we change the internal narratives.

We have been conditioned to be our own biggest critic and that comes from the mind and its fears. Add to that the cultural norm of ‘you can do better’ mentality instilled in us from our formative years in order to satisfy the egos of others and to prepare us for a life of servitude to working for others. It creates a default reaction of self-criticism and it is a shield we put up to ‘protect’ ourselves from the perceived judgement of others. However, this behaviour only serves to affect our self-esteem and causes us to suffer within.

We never feel inspired or motivated after beating ourselves up.

However, if we choose to be our biggest fan instead then we are proud of our work and we grow in self-confidence and we feel good.

It inspires us to build on what we have already achieved and to look positively on what we have done not what we didn’t do or did badly in our eyes.

When we focus on what we did well we free ourselves from the negative energy of looking at what we think we did wrong.

Lastly, we are all already worthy of love and belonging from the moment we wake up in the morning to the moment we go to sleep, no matter what we did or didn’t do that day.