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Inner and outer acceptance

Posted on by philipdodson

Accepting what is, is different from outwardly accepting everything passively that has occurred.

What has already occurred in the world, in life, at this exact moment can not be altered, as soon as it happens it instantly becomes the past, it is gone, unalterable. Therefore, for peace within and to not suffer from others’ actions, and for the sake of our mental and physical state, it is best to always accept it as it is, futile to do anything else.

However, that does not mean that we have to choose to be completely passive about everything that has occurred, equally, we do not have to be combative and aggressive either. When we accept all within, it allows us to act from a place of peace and calm within and without becoming the reaction that our mind and ego would want. Therefore, when we do act, it is more likely to be received without others needing to react aggressively. When we are calm, yet true to ourselves, others will be calm and more ready to hear us and understand us.

For example, I accept that there are people who choose to be cruel to animals, however, I am not going to be outwardly passive if witnessed someone being cruel to an animal, I would act to prevent it as it goes against my values.

There is a big difference between accepting what is and how we choose to act. Accepting what is, is essential to be able to act from a place of inner calm and take out our agendas and ego. However, if there are things that go against our truth, against our values, or threaten us or the people we love, then we can act and protect what matters to us.

Acceptance within is not about being uncaring or passive, it is about not suffering within from other peoples’ actions and choices. We can accept, however, we do not have to agree or be silent. We can choose how we act always, and sometimes there are situations where we choose to not act, this is fine too. However, we should never be fearful of saying our truths and acting according to our hearts and values.

Speaking my truth

Posted on by philipdodson

It’s been nearly a month since I posted a blog, I came back to my blogging earlier this year after a break, I had blogged every single day for over 6 years, then felt that my writing had got stuck so I stopped. So I took a break to freshen up and came back. However, I realised that I was still holding something back. I stopped again in early August, I’d lost my way with it all.

My writing was reflecting my mind state and not coming from my heart, that is where our true essence comes from, the soul and our heart and not from the mind.

Without realising it, my mind was sabotaging me writing from my heart and saying my truth.

This is the thing that we all suffer from, learning how to free ourselves to say our truth to ourselves first and then to the world. We hold back, we are fearful of it within and we fear others’ reactions to it.

Our soul wants us to always speak our truth and to be open-hearted and the mind fears this so, if we allow it, the mind stops us.

We all want to be seen and to be understood and we want the world to hear our truth.

The knowing within us that we are not speaking our truth and that we are holding back brings us great suffering and brings challenges to us. We can not be at peace and truly 100% love ourselves if we do not learn to speak our truth.

We are not here to be liked, we are here to be our true selves and to speak openly our true feelings from our hearts. When we do, we free ourselves and we attract to our lives the right tribe of people who accept us for who we are, they will love us unconditionally and will allow us to be seen, listened to and understood.

Finding our truth is a challenge initially as we have to be prepared to peel back the layers of the onion that we have put up around ourselves to protect us. We have built a shield around our true selves and hidden from the world. We have to be brave enough to bare our soul and to reveal our true self, we have to take off the layers. This is fucking hard and we are conditioned not to.

When we finally speak the truth from our hearts our relationships change with friends, partners, and everyone. Those who want to be around our truth will grow more connected to us and those who don’t will fade or run away.

Speaking from the heart comes without agenda and comes from love. When we speak from the mind it comes from a place of judgement, evaluation and has an agenda.

I am committing to going on a journey to speak my truth, speak from my heart and free myself. It’s going to be tough. It means sticking my hand into the fire.