Tag: respect

It’s their fault

Posted on by philipdodson

We think it is other people, but it is all ourselves.

We choose how to react to others, we choose everything.

No one forces us to behave in any way at all, we choose every time.

When we look within for the answers life changes, when we seek to be a victim or blame others or situations, we get stuck in the smallness of our thinking mind.

When we look within we find the answers and we become accountable and take responsibility for our behaviour and choices. We then start to make choices from our truth, values and heart. We then choose to behave in an openhearted and kind way, with empathy, and understanding. We choose to see the other person and respect them.

It does not mean we have to agree with everyone or not have an opinion or voice of our own. It means that we act authentically, empathetically and free from any agendas, our ego and judgement.

When we blame others we are actually point the same finger out our behaviour.

What if…?

Posted on by philipdodson

What if we choose to ask a question first instead of telling someone what we think?

What if we choose to understand them first?

What if we helped them to be seen first?

What if we choose to say to ourselves that I don’t know what they are feeling or thinking?

What if we choose to listen without preparing our answer?

What if we didn’t respond from our point of view?

What if we accepted that their feelings were theirs and that we wouldn’t question that?

What if we were taught to be curious and to know how to listen?

What if we knew how to help others to be seen?

Maybe we could choose to try.

My guess is we would learn to listen, speak and act from our hearts. That love would replace fear and we would all become more connected.