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Observing

Posted on by philipdodson

Our ‘normal’ state as humans is a mind-filled unconscious state where we are not aware of the moment and are consumed by thoughts of the past and future, which is where the thinking mind spends all its time. We are stuck in the box of content that is the time-bound mind-created thing we see as our life.

We are concentrated on what is next or what has occurred and not consciously in the moment of what is actually happening now. It is not a state of observation, reflection, calm, joy or peace. It is a state of constant turmoil and suffering. We are in a fear-based operating system that affects our mental and physical state. We are on edge, anxious and in a constant adrenalin-fuelled condition of flight, fight or freeze.

If we change our state and observe our thoughts instead of energising and becoming them, we move from flight, fight, and freeze to calm and inner peace. We move into a conscious state of being rather than an unconscious state of thinking. We close the lid of the box of content.

Our true self is not our mind, it is the observer and when we become the observer then our true essence, which is us and is always there, has space to be. We create space for soulful creation to take place instead of no space other than constant thought.

When we become the observer, we are connected with our heart and soul, with our creative essence and love which enables us to be ourselves. When we are the thinker then we become connected to fear.

Inner and outer acceptance

Posted on by philipdodson

Accepting what is, is different from outwardly accepting everything passively that has occurred.

What has already occurred in the world, in life, at this exact moment can not be altered, as soon as it happens it instantly becomes the past, it is gone, unalterable. Therefore, for peace within and to not suffer from others’ actions, and for the sake of our mental and physical state, it is best to always accept it as it is, futile to do anything else.

However, that does not mean that we have to choose to be completely passive about everything that has occurred, equally, we do not have to be combative and aggressive either. When we accept all within, it allows us to act from a place of peace and calm within and without becoming the reaction that our mind and ego would want. Therefore, when we do act, it is more likely to be received without others needing to react aggressively. When we are calm, yet true to ourselves, others will be calm and more ready to hear us and understand us.

For example, I accept that there are people who choose to be cruel to animals, however, I am not going to be outwardly passive if witnessed someone being cruel to an animal, I would act to prevent it as it goes against my values.

There is a big difference between accepting what is and how we choose to act. Accepting what is, is essential to be able to act from a place of inner calm and take out our agendas and ego. However, if there are things that go against our truth, against our values, or threaten us or the people we love, then we can act and protect what matters to us.

Acceptance within is not about being uncaring or passive, it is about not suffering within from other peoples’ actions and choices. We can accept, however, we do not have to agree or be silent. We can choose how we act always, and sometimes there are situations where we choose to not act, this is fine too. However, we should never be fearful of saying our truths and acting according to our hearts and values.