If it is something that another person is doing or saying, then it is totally out of our control.
Strangely, we seem to believe differently, trying to change what is and we oddly choose to suffer from other people and their actions.
All we can control ever is ourselves, it’s that simple, and if we choose to control our own mind and stay away from the repeating thoughts and stories, then we can be free from suffering, worry, fear, anxiety and all other forms of emotions that bring us pain.
It is all a choice as to whether we want to suffer the drama or not.
It turns out we are rather good at that thing we’ve wanted to do but our mind has sabotaged us from trying it.
What happened? We decided to do it…1,2,3…let’s go. We braved it, we stepped out of our mind, we allowed the fear to be the guide instead of the inhibitor.
The things we fear are the things that matter and the more we fear the more they matter. Why? Because our mind is programmed to protect the self-image the same as our limbic system is designed to protect the physical us. So if a bus is hurtling towards us we react instantly thanks to our limbic brains.
The mind lives in the past or the future, constantly fueling the self-image and projecting forward looking for salvation or more of the same. So when we try to do something, the mind creates worry, anxiety, fear through future projections of what will happen if we try. The mind does not want anything to happen to the self-image so the future projections are usually gloomy.
The moment we step away from our thinking and just do, focusing on that thing and that thing alone, deep focus, then the mind is silent and disarmed. What happens then is we learn, get even better and realise the fear/worry/anxiety etc wasn’t real.
We realise that the thing we’ve wanted to do, we can and we can do it and enjoy doing it.
Stay away from the mind and a funny thing will happen, we’ll fear things less.