Tag: advice

What if…?

Posted on by philipdodson

What if we choose to ask a question first instead of telling someone what we think?

What if we choose to understand them first?

What if we helped them to be seen first?

What if we choose to say to ourselves that I don’t know what they are feeling or thinking?

What if we choose to listen without preparing our answer?

What if we didn’t respond from our point of view?

What if we accepted that their feelings were theirs and that we wouldn’t question that?

What if we were taught to be curious and to know how to listen?

What if we knew how to help others to be seen?

Maybe we could choose to try.

My guess is we would learn to listen, speak and act from our hearts. That love would replace fear and we would all become more connected.

That thing we feared

Posted on by philipdodson

Those things that we fear, the ones that we fear the most, when we start them and do them it’s amazing afterwards how we realise just how stupid it was to have feared them.

The things that we fear the most are the ones we put off the most. However, they’re the ones we really want to do the most but I’m just too fearful to start. It is the starting that’s the challenge not the doing, the doing is the easy bit and afterwards we realise why on earth did I have a fear of this thing.

So how do we get to start? We get to start by doing the small things, the small steps not the big things, the small steps and if it’s a big thing, we’ve got to do break it down to small things small tiny steps.

Small tiny steps that we won’t fear, that the brain or the mind won’t pick up on and sabotage.

That’s the trick, daily habits, small steps, tiny little things and then the compound effect comes.

Initially, we don’t see much of a change but gradually over time the momentum grows and the change becomes enormous and then we’ve gone from doing a series of tiny small insignificant steps to a giant leap that we could’ve never done before because the giant leap was too fearful.

Small steps is the answer, just 123 go, a small step never a giant leap, we never fear a small step.