Tag: soul

Understanding without filters

Posted on by philipdodson

We all have a deep need to be seen and understood. Yet we spend so little time understanding others.

We are wrapped up in our needs and we have this expectation that others are seeing us as important. We expect others to understand us, but we are not prepared to understand them.

Equally, we do not communicate with others, we isolate ourselves, close ourselves off and then still expect others to understand us.

It is always better to start from a position of no expectation of others, it stops us from becoming disappointed and releases them from the burden of our expectations.

We have to be first to understand others and that requires us to listen. Listening is a challenge for us all as we are not taught how to listen properly. True listening is being silent, listening to the other person from our hearts and listening to them how we would want others to listen to us…fully and completely without judgement, evaluation or interruption. Listening isn’t about a pause for us to think about what to say next, it isn’t about evaluating what the other person is saying, it isn’t about us or how it might affect us.

People want to be heard and seen not told and fixed. They do not want to hear about our story or for their story to be judged or corrected. Their truth is theirs, and their story is theirs. We are not the arbiter of that, or the person to correct what we have judged to be wrong about it. Our role is to listen to them empathetically and from a place of love, allowing them to be seen and know that they have been understood.

It is one soul seeing the soul of another and connecting with them as one without the filters of our minds.

Bringing fire into our lives

Posted on by philipdodson

When I m coaching and starting out on a journey with someone, I always get them to look first at what they love to do and what brings them joy. It should be the bedrock of our lives, our roots that ground us and allow us to dance in the wind and be flexible yet resilient.

The world knows when there is a fire within us or not. The world knows when our eyes are tired and when we are lacking a fizz, when the fire has gone out. 

Our soul is always a burning fire, however, over time it gets smothered by our minds, thoughts, and fears. We allow ourselves to become them instead of allowing our true essence to shine.

In order to relight the fire and show our true selves to the world and spread our light, we have to go back to our hearts and start to do the things that bring us joy.

I get them to take a large piece of paper and write down all the things that they love and bring them joy. This is where we get our why power from. When the fire is going out we struggle on by using our willpower, which the mind believes is all we need to be strong and tough. However, the batteries in the willpower run out and they run out very quickly when we are not connected with our hearts and our why power.

Why we do what we do is the hardest thing to answer if we are not connected to what we love and if we are not doing what we love, the fire will not be there and the world will see it,

The world is a reflection of us as we continually create what we put out, we manifest our reality. If there is a fire in our eyes and our soul is shining bright, we will attract what we give out. If there is no passion in our hearts and the fire is hidden then we will struggle to attract what we want.

Life is a short journey, let us live it from our hearts and give our fire and light to the world.