Tag: questions

What if…?

Posted on by philipdodson

What if we choose to ask a question first instead of telling someone what we think?

What if we choose to understand them first?

What if we helped them to be seen first?

What if we choose to say to ourselves that I don’t know what they are feeling or thinking?

What if we choose to listen without preparing our answer?

What if we didn’t respond from our point of view?

What if we accepted that their feelings were theirs and that we wouldn’t question that?

What if we were taught to be curious and to know how to listen?

What if we knew how to help others to be seen?

Maybe we could choose to try.

My guess is we would learn to listen, speak and act from our hearts. That love would replace fear and we would all become more connected.

What is the most difficult question to answer?

Posted on by philipdodson

The most difficult question to answer is one that we all seek to get the answer to in life. 

Will this work? Will it be successful? Will I……? Essentially, any question that involves anything beyond now.

The reason for that, is that ‘now’ exists, as the only time we know anything, as it is the only time we are alive and the only time we experience anything. When the future comes, it is now, always. But until it comes it is not real and therefore there can not be an answer. There is no future beyond our minds.

The lack of an answer is the challenge as it creates a psychological fear in us that we can not deal with. This leads to emotions such as worry, anxiety, apprehension, nervousness and so on, which in turn creates turbulence in the physical body and suffering in the mind.

The human mind thrives on black and white, it needs certainty and answers to save its poor little friend the ego from any risk to its existence.

We can not answer the question about the future and that is why it is the most difficult question and best left to never be asked.

A better question that we can answer and act on removing any fears is ‘What can I do now?’.