What if…?

What if we choose to ask a question first instead of telling someone what we think?

What if we choose to understand them first?

What if we helped them to be seen first?

What if we choose to say to ourselves that I don’t know what they are feeling or thinking?

What if we choose to listen without preparing our answer?

What if we didn’t respond from our point of view?

What if we accepted that their feelings were theirs and that we wouldn’t question that?

What if we were taught to be curious and to know how to listen?

What if we knew how to help others to be seen?

Maybe we could choose to try.

My guess is we would learn to listen, speak and act from our hearts. That love would replace fear and we would all become more connected.

When we are ready

We will only change when we are ready to and it’s important to remind ourselves that we are not broken. There isn’t anything to fix.

Equally important is to apply that to others.

They may not welcome our uninvited attempts to fix them or welcome our evaluation that they are broken.

Everything happens when we are ready.