We think it is other people, but it is all ourselves.
We choose how to react to others, we choose everything.
No one forces us to behave in any way at all, we choose every time.
When we look within for the answers life changes, when we seek to be a victim or blame others or situations, we get stuck in the smallness of our thinking mind.
When we look within we find the answers and we become accountable and take responsibility for our behaviour and choices. We then start to make choices from our truth, values and heart. We then choose to behave in an openhearted and kind way, with empathy, and understanding. We choose to see the other person and respect them.
It does not mean we have to agree with everyone or not have an opinion or voice of our own. It means that we act authentically, empathetically and free from any agendas, our ego and judgement.
When we blame others we are actually point the same finger out our behaviour.
The world focuses on exterior beauty and we measure ourselves cruelly against others through the lenses of accepted standards of beauty in society.
Of course, within we suffer as we perceive that we are not beautiful. It is now so pervasive and corrosive in society that it has become as serious as life and death, that’s how powerful the collective mind is once we become attached to it. We become our thoughts.
Others are more beautiful and thus the untrue internal negative narratives and negative thoughts run repetitively leading to manifesting unfounded behaviours and unkindness inwardly to ourselves.
Truly beautiful people are those who have focused their energies on realising that we become beautiful on the inside and they manifest that beauty through their beliefs about what beauty really is. Those people then radiate that beauty and light on the exterior too. Not in a cosmetic or societal way but in a soulful and wonderful way. They are beautiful souls who realise that we are all truly the same within, equal and worthy in every way.
The external shaming and judgement of our ‘beauty’ can only make us suffer if we choose to align with the falsehood that beauty is an external thing. Visual external beauty is subjective and judgement based which are all created by the individual and collective minds. Thus they are all temporary, opinion-based whims that lack any soulful substance, yet we create our inner image based on such nonsense.
Shallow definitions of beauty accepted by the collective and individual minds and egos are a cause of suffering for us all. However, those who let go of those definitions and create beauty within first will spread that beauty in a non-judgemental and uplifting way to the world. The true beauty that is life is what we all have as an amazing gift that cannot ever be judged or evaluated.
When we stop looking in the mirror to see if we are worthy and beautiful and start to be kind, loving, compassionate, empathetic, understanding and patient with ourselves and simply be without evaluation of others, then we will feel our own beauty within. Becoming beautiful within ourselves through our beliefs and allowing our true essence to flourish manifests pure beauty inside and out without an agenda. We have detached ourselves from our ego and therefore we can become beautiful.
When we let go of the craving to be seen as beautiful by the minds of others and respect ourselves, honour our values, be true to ourselves, concentrate on the inside then we see ourselves as beautiful as a soul.
Beauty is an inside job. What if we started teaching to look within and create our beauty inside?
Philip Dodson 