Not living the life I want…

Is something I’ve said to myself many times and I am sure many others have.

However, if we stopped to analyse now and stopped thinking about this future life that never actually arrives, we’d realise that we are living a far better life than we thought.

I did this very thing this morning while chatting with my mate on our weekly catch-up/accountability call. We both had to admit that life now was pretty damn good. If we allowed ourselves to look at what we actually have, instead of beating ourselves up about all the things we don’t have, that would somehow magically make our lives more like the one we’re always imagining and hoping will get one day in the future, then we’d live a much more relaxed and contented life.

We have to unlearn our conditioning of always striving for more things we don’t currently have and we have to relearn gratitude and sufficiency. Most people thankfully are in a privileged situation of abundance, and that, of course, is all relative but compared to the plight of many just 100 years ago, we live in abundant times.

The best day of our lives is today and always will be because life happens in the now moment. That does not stop use changing things to build a different future, but what we have right now is it. Be grateful for it and anything else that comes our way is a bonus. Life can be one of contentment and joy or one of dissatisfaction about things we don’t have.

Don’t worry about achievements

Happiness and joy in life are not made up of what we achieve in terms of qualifications, salaries, houses, sales, followers…it is made up of memories that we create in our heads, and the heads of others, of moments, activities and experiences we do with people who matter.

Moments that we can recount or recount together with others that makes us feel warm, happy and that we keep with us and cherish for a lifetime.

Never worry about whether or not you achieved enough tasks, duties, things in your life, it is less important.

We can choose to concern ourselves with creating the memories, that will become our legacy when we are gone, with the people who truly matter in our lives.

Wake up each day full of joy and gratitude for the journey we’ve had, for the treasure chest of memories already there. Grateful for all that we have, our partners, families, friends.

Everything that happens from the moment we wake up every day can be viewed as a bonus, an unexpected gift to be hugely thankful for.

We can then choose each day to do something small but special for ourselves or others that we love and care about, or even for a stranger. The small things matter and make us feel good about ourselves and help others to feel good too.