Not living the life I want…

Is something I’ve said to myself many times and I am sure many others have.

However, if we stopped to analyse now and stopped thinking about this future life that never actually arrives, we’d realise that we are living a far better life than we thought.

I did this very thing this morning while chatting with my mate on our weekly catch-up/accountability call. We both had to admit that life now was pretty damn good. If we allowed ourselves to look at what we actually have, instead of beating ourselves up about all the things we don’t have, that would somehow magically make our lives more like the one we’re always imagining and hoping will get one day in the future, then we’d live a much more relaxed and contented life.

We have to unlearn our conditioning of always striving for more things we don’t currently have and we have to relearn gratitude and sufficiency. Most people thankfully are in a privileged situation of abundance, and that, of course, is all relative but compared to the plight of many just 100 years ago, we live in abundant times.

The best day of our lives is today and always will be because life happens in the now moment. That does not stop use changing things to build a different future, but what we have right now is it. Be grateful for it and anything else that comes our way is a bonus. Life can be one of contentment and joy or one of dissatisfaction about things we don’t have.

True kindness

True kindness is something that is truly one of the most magical things about life and shows real humanity.

We have just moved into a new house about 8 months ago and on the first day, a lady appears in our garden with a cake and welcome card. She lives with her husband across the street from us.

She speaks to everyone, a rarity in our modern world sadly, she is not intrusive, but very friendly and helpful. Her husband did some carpentry work for us, another kind person, and as we get to know them, we realise how much other kind stuff she does.

Randomly, she’ll knock on the door and say ‘I’ve just baked some soda bread’ or ‘here are some scones I’ve just made’.

Today, my daughter is having some friends over to celebrate her birthday and she knocks on the door with a cake, a card, some scones and a little present.

The thing is she does it as true kindness as she has no expectation of anything in return, she does it because it makes her happy.

These small acts of random kindness make you feel grateful for being alive and to be human. It brings so much joy.

Thank Veronica.