To see them you need to stop looking for what you do not have and be grateful for what you already have. A position of gratitude and no resistance.
This changes us from a mind-obsessed position of resistance and disappointment searching constantly for more to a soul-filled position of peace and calm, awareness and acceptance. No more fighting, no more looking for something to fulfil us.
All that we need we have and all that we need to grow is there if we stop looking and just see.
We place so much hope and emphasis on someone, something, an event, a new direction, whatever we latch onto in the exterior world, to change our life, expending huge amounts of energy building expectation, only to be disappointed. We do not look within ourselves to be responsible for our life.
Only we can change our life, as our life unfolds within us and that is what we and we alone control. We choose, we think, we act, we let go.
Expectation of others and other things only leads to disappointment and then suffering within.