I’m 54 years old and I struggle to think of anything that has happened to me that has been really bad, as in life threateningly awful, really, really bad. Furthermore, anything that I have not been able to deal with.
Yet in my mind, I have imagined almost every horrific thing that you could come up with and not just once but again and again and yep, again. If all the bad things I had imagined might happen, had happened, well I wouldn’t be 54 and I wouldn’t be writing this blog. Even if 1% of them had occurred, then life would have been beyond description ‘bad’.
We can stop our worrying…bad things happen in the mind, which we control. In real life not much happens really…we to be worried about and the worrying stops us enjoy the good.
Our default reaction to any bad news is always to worst case scenario that will result and to what we could have done, or should have done, to avoid the bad news happening.
The future and the past is where the suffering is. The future is the psychological fear of our minds’s projections into the future, a thing that does not exist except for in our heads. Of course, the ego thrives on drama and is totally insecure, so it comes up with the worst-case scenarios. We can go from mild bad news to meltdown in a short space of time.
The past, of course, no longer exists, and it is an act of complete futility to even think that it can be undone. But it is a chance to start the victim role, poor me, or it was so and so, it’s their fault.
If we choose to accept that what is, is it, unchangeable, if we accept that it has happened and that what comes from it is unknown, then we can concentrate on now. The only time that we can act or think or do or ignore or whatever we choose to do or not do.
If our default reaction was ‘I accept what is’ then we are free of the suffering, we are not resisting or denying reality and from a place of inner calm we can deal with any challenge that occurs.
Most of our life nothing has actually happened, it is our fears of what might happen that create all the suffering.
Enjoy now, the problem-free moment that is always our real life. It does not mean that we do not take action, but what we do not do is suffer.