Cry on the outside

Suck it up, stiff upper lip, be strong, toughen up, be a man, harden up and so on.

A culture of believing strength is not showing emotion, not being vulnerable, a macho belief that we have to be hard as nails.

Cry on the inside and suffer from the so-called bravery.

People who choose to be really brave and open up, show their emotions, let their guard down and be vulnerable to the outside world are the ones who cry on the outside and end the suffering within.

Walking away

If you walk away from an argument, if you resist a fight, if let go even when you do not agree, is that weakness? Or is, in fact, the very opposite?

We see arguing, fighting, being opinionated, aggression, dominating others and so on as strength. We see being ‘in-charge’ as leadership. Perhaps leadership is actually setting an example for others to be inspired by.

It is the weakness of the mind and the vulnerability of our self-image that causes us to fight, argue, become aggressive, behave badly to defend the things that do not matter and are in fact not real, but a fabrication of our minds. Minds fighting with other minds verbally and physically, and to what ends? A winner and loser. In fact, all parties suffer, there never needs to be a winner or a loser.

What if we could see walking away as a strength, would we have a better world?