Tag: anger

We can’t give to others what we don’t give to ourselves

Posted on by philipdodson

We can’t give to others what we don’t give to ourselves.

If we don’t love ourselves we can’t love others. If we are not kind to ourselves we can’t give it to others. If we have no compassion for ourselves then we can’t be compassionate with others. If we do not show ourselves empathy and understanding then we will not see and understand others.

Understanding is a powerful thing that we all seek and yet we do not start with ourselves. We do not take the time to own or be accountable for our journeys. When we own them we can learn and write a different story. We can then seek to understand others too. All to often we fill in the gaps with ourselves and make up stories and we do e we it’s others too.

Equally, what we give to ourselves, we give to others. If we are angry, fearful, unkind, harsh, judging, shaming, and so on, of ourselves then we will treat others the same. If we are kind, compassionate, loving and understanding with ourselves we will be with others.

Inner peace comes from treating ourselves kindly and outer peace follows.

It all starts with us. The world is what we create from our inner state.

I’m angry about being angry

Posted on by philipdodson

When we fight against our feelings, especially the negative ones, they do not go away. They become energised and grow.

Often when I get angry, I get angry about being angry. I tell myself I should just be floating on a cloud, all calm and zen-like. ‘I know how to deal with this…I shouldn’t be angry’ is what I tell myself and that causes more anger!

However, all feelings are there for a reason and we could choose to welcome them. To learn why we feel that way and to use it as our guide.

Funnily, the moment we accept and welcome our negative states, the sooner they subside and go. Energy goes where our focus goes and resistance and fighting something is a negative energy.