Who’s driving your bus?

If we want to see changes in our life, then we have to take different actions, right?

If we keep doing the same things, then, of course, we always end up with the same results.

However, is it as simple as just changing what we do? Why if it was this simple, do we still struggle to change what we do?

As always, we have to go back to the roots of everything. It all starts at the core, not on the surface.

This is how it works…what we do or don’t do, is a direct result of our state of being. So if our state of being is one of fear or anxiety or worry etc, then the actions we take/don’t take will reflect that. Then the actions will lead to outcomes and those outcomes then feed back into our state of being. Thus we go round and round the same circle. We will never be able to change what we do unless we change our state of being.

Wow!! simple, right? Well…erm, no.

We have to work out what creates our state of being in order to be able to change it.

What creates our state of being?

Imagine yourself as a bus. The bus is our body, inside the bus is our soul, the only you, the true essence. In order to be in the state of being that will allow us to manifest truly who we are, we have to be the driver. We are the only one who is qualified to drive our bus. The true ‘you’ needs to be in the driving seat always. Then the bus goes on the path and journey that our soul/true essence (you) wants to take and experience. We will be able to do what we really want to do as we are consciously driving our bus.

However, what happens is there is someone else on the bus…shit! That’s right, there is a passenger, and that is our mind/ego/thoughts. The ego creates its own story and then wants to drive the bus and the real you ends up in the passenger seat suffering as the ego is a bad driver.

The other bad news, the ego stops and lets on other passengers either passengers that it has created or ones that others have created for us. These passengers then become our beliefs. The passengers, once created by us or the ones we let on the bus, never leave. They become our beliefs.

The ego, lets them drive too, so the suffering increases and our life, the bus journey, becomes hijacked and the journey doesn’t go as we intended or want. Beliefs create thoughts which lead to our actions, which in turn, create the outcomes in the exterior world.

So if we want to change our state of being, we have to identify the passengers, put them back into their seats and then take our position in the driving seat. Then the actions we take will be the ones that we want to take and the journey will unfold as we want it to. Once you have shone a torch on the passengers you know how they are, even the ones that hide right under the seats!

This means being at peace with all that is, accepting our beliefs are there, accept the journey to now. We have to accept that once we go into the psychological time dimension of the future, looking at the map, then the passengers get back into the driving seat.

Similarly, if we go back to the past, as in start looking in the rearview mirror, then we end up allowing the passengers to direct us, we are looking back and not staying focused on driving the bus. We are no longer focused on the road right in front of us and then we take wrong turns or crash.

The only moment we can drive the bus is now, it is the ONLY time. Now is our life and when we fall in love with this moment and stop denying it or seeing it as a means to an end, then we drive and not the passengers.

A good way to stay focused on the driving is to see each action we do as equal, do not place greater value on one thing versus another, then we are not always seeking the next ‘big’ thing and that stops us from reading the map all the time and worrying and thinking, it keeps the passengers from sneaking back into the driving seat as we are conscious and paying attention.

The other thing to note is when the passengers, directed by our ego, drive the bus, they do not pay any attention to the maintenance of the bus (our physical body). In fact, they damage the bus with their bad driving.

They also crash into other buses driven by their passengers and that creates bad relationships with other buses.

Drive your bus…it’s the only way to get to the destination you want in life.

What we believe matters and what actually matters are hugely different

My mind has on average 60,000 thoughts a day and it wants me to take all of them seriously. It’s exhausting when I become engaged with my mindstreams, they drag me along and they are not creative, they are negative and assumption based, in fact, based on absolutely nothing other than its ramblings and the stories that it has created about me. All of them false. However, I choose to create them, believe them, and magnify them by adding to them constantly.

The mind patterns are repetitive and have been built up over a lifetime of falsehoods that I have chosen to believe about myself either created myself from negative thoughts or fueled by me believing what I think others think about me. This again is based on nothing other than my mind’s ramblings or something that another person’s mind has blurted out unconsciously and my mind has chosen to take seriously.

All these things we do to ourselves. None of it is done by others.

How do I change this?

I change it by realising that all these thoughts are just that, thoughts. Thoughts are temporary mental formations that will always be there and come constantly. The realisation many years ago that I am the observer of those thoughts and not those thoughts, I am the consciousness that is the witness of them and therefore I am not my mind and its thoughts. Of course, my mind is a part of me, like my ear or finger. But I am not the thoughts.

Once you realise that there is only one me, the soul, the ball of energy that my body faithfully takes on its journey, then you realise that none of these thoughts and stories matter. It only matters to be, as in to be my true essence, soul, and spirit and to live a life true to that in this moment creating experiences and sharing the gift that is uniquely mine.

I no longer want to be shackled by my thoughts and stories. I know what my gift is and my purpose and I want to be that, not my mind and its stories. Once I stop energising all those thoughts and stories my mind has space to help me manifest that gift and share it with the world.

My mind, like all of us, is the most amazing gift and the most amazing creative tool, that is what is there for, to help us, our true essence, soul, and being to manifest our gift for us and others.

Every one of us has a gift and our purpose is to discover it and give it to the world.

Am I 100% my true essence every day? Absolutely not, but I am on the path to achieving that. Will I achieve it in this lifetime? Maybe not, who knows, as the future does not exist beyond the ramblings of my mind. It doesn’t matter either, I’ll come back and continue the journey.

All that matters is this moment now, the eternal present moment where all life and experience exist. When we experience anything it is always now. If we stay in this ‘now’ moment we move beyond our thought and by simply being we are able to manifest our gift and create what we truly desire to create and experience.

That’s what matters not thousands of thoughts.