Sure others can help and many are more than willing to help. In fact, often we are over-bearing in our eagerness to helps others.
However, we have to help ourselves, as by taking responsibility and ownership enables to us change. Only we can change ourselves, however, only when we are ready to open up to that change. It has to come from inside our soul. We have to listen to our own wisdom and intuition.
If we are engaged with the mind and the helpful minds of others, which are laced with ours and their egos, then we will suppress and override our own deep inner feelings and the real us will not blossom.
Sure people can help but it is us that can help ourselves from within our soul.
What we think others need, is actually what we need.
When we judge others, we are really judging ourselves.
When we criticise, judge, compare, even well-intentioned thoughts of helping others, it is actually a reflection of ourselves and our needs. Instead of looking inwardly, our egos make us look outwardly to place our own frustrations on others or to build a feeling of superiority to make us feel better. So we can say that ‘I know best’ or ‘they’re doing it wrong’.
If we all focus on helping ourselves, and not judging, criticising, or ‘helping’ others, then we expand and are able to be an example and bring our light to others, not our interference, coercion or negativity. We have no right to assume we know others inner story or that we know what is best for them. We do not own others, we are all equal souls and can content ourselves with just being and letting others be.
Helping ourselves is a positive thing for ourselves and others, judging or forming opinions of others is only damaging and negative for ourselves and others.