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Inner and outer acceptance

Posted on by philipdodson

Accepting what is, is different from outwardly accepting everything passively that has occurred.

What has already occurred in the world, in life, at this exact moment can not be altered, as soon as it happens it instantly becomes the past, it is gone, unalterable. Therefore, for peace within and to not suffer from others’ actions, and for the sake of our mental and physical state, it is best to always accept it as it is, futile to do anything else.

However, that does not mean that we have to choose to be completely passive about everything that has occurred, equally, we do not have to be combative and aggressive either. When we accept all within, it allows us to act from a place of peace and calm within and without becoming the reaction that our mind and ego would want. Therefore, when we do act, it is more likely to be received without others needing to react aggressively. When we are calm, yet true to ourselves, others will be calm and more ready to hear us and understand us.

For example, I accept that there are people who choose to be cruel to animals, however, I am not going to be outwardly passive if witnessed someone being cruel to an animal, I would act to prevent it as it goes against my values.

There is a big difference between accepting what is and how we choose to act. Accepting what is, is essential to be able to act from a place of inner calm and take out our agendas and ego. However, if there are things that go against our truth, against our values, or threaten us or the people we love, then we can act and protect what matters to us.

Acceptance within is not about being uncaring or passive, it is about not suffering within from other peoples’ actions and choices. We can accept, however, we do not have to agree or be silent. We can choose how we act always, and sometimes there are situations where we choose to not act, this is fine too. However, we should never be fearful of saying our truths and acting according to our hearts and values.

Quitting isn’t the answer

Posted on by philipdodson

If we are sitting here on a Sunday afternoon dreading tomorrow and a return to our work, instead of enjoying the moment, the view, the chilling and time to contemplate, then maybe it is time to make a change.

Change does not have to be quitting your job, it might be seeing our jobs and life through a new lens, one that sees what is rather than looking for what our minds want to see and believe about them.

Our reality is uniquely ours as we create it in our thought and beliefs, so how I see the world will be completely different to every single one of the other 8 billion humans.

If I dread Monday, not only do I numb myself to now, my real life, I create anxiety within me and when Monday does come, I do not enjoy it and wish I was elsewhere.

Quitting something however does not solve the problem as whatever is or was troubling us is our internal state which then manifests the external world, so unless we change the internal state, nothing will change from changing jobs, cars, houses, partners, clothes whatever else.

When we accept what is, when we become present in this moment, we can then react from a place of calm and peace, we can change how we choose to see the world and if we believe that the world is what we want to be then we can change how we see all things. That means that we can still quit our jobs if they are not nourishing our souls and if they are not what we truly want to be doing from our heart and soul.

Quitting isn’t the answer…learning our why and doing things from our heart is.