Tag: accepting

I’m angry about being angry

Posted on by philipdodson

When we fight against our feelings, especially the negative ones, they do not go away. They become energised and grow.

Often when I get angry, I get angry about being angry. I tell myself I should just be floating on a cloud, all calm and zen-like. ‘I know how to deal with this…I shouldn’t be angry’ is what I tell myself and that causes more anger!

However, all feelings are there for a reason and we could choose to welcome them. To learn why we feel that way and to use it as our guide.

Funnily, the moment we accept and welcome our negative states, the sooner they subside and go. Energy goes where our focus goes and resistance and fighting something is a negative energy.

Acceptance inside not outside

Posted on by philipdodson

Inner acceptance of ‘what is’ does not need to be confused with outward acceptance.

Accepting what is and others as they are and as this moment is, enables us to be at peace, however, it does not mean we agree with it or are happy about it. Of course, we might be, but accepting inside is not agreement. It just means we are making a conscious choice not to suffer from what is, something that can not be change.

If we then choose to voice our view or act, it is from a place of calm and free from egoic attachment to the outcome, and again, removing any suffering from other peoples’ reactions.

Surrendering to what has already occurred and what other people are is not being a ‘doormat’ or weak, it is strength to be able to free ourselves from the resistance to what we can not change.

Inside is what counts as it is the only thing we can control.