Tag: the mind

What we believe matters and what actually matters are hugely different

Posted on by philipdodson

My mind has on average 60,000 thoughts a day and it wants me to take all of them seriously. It’s exhausting when I become engaged with my mindstreams, they drag me along and they are not creative, they are negative and assumption based, in fact, based on absolutely nothing other than its ramblings and the stories that it has created about me. All of them false. However, I choose to create them, believe them, and magnify them by adding to them constantly.

The mind patterns are repetitive and have been built up over a lifetime of falsehoods that I have chosen to believe about myself either created myself from negative thoughts or fueled by me believing what I think others think about me. This again is based on nothing other than my mind’s ramblings or something that another person’s mind has blurted out unconsciously and my mind has chosen to take seriously.

All these things we do to ourselves. None of it is done by others.

How do I change this?

I change it by realising that all these thoughts are just that, thoughts. Thoughts are temporary mental formations that will always be there and come constantly. The realisation many years ago that I am the observer of those thoughts and not those thoughts, I am the consciousness that is the witness of them and therefore I am not my mind and its thoughts. Of course, my mind is a part of me, like my ear or finger. But I am not the thoughts.

Once you realise that there is only one me, the soul, the ball of energy that my body faithfully takes on its journey, then you realise that none of these thoughts and stories matter. It only matters to be, as in to be my true essence, soul, and spirit and to live a life true to that in this moment creating experiences and sharing the gift that is uniquely mine.

I no longer want to be shackled by my thoughts and stories. I know what my gift is and my purpose and I want to be that, not my mind and its stories. Once I stop energising all those thoughts and stories my mind has space to help me manifest that gift and share it with the world.

My mind, like all of us, is the most amazing gift and the most amazing creative tool, that is what is there for, to help us, our true essence, soul, and being to manifest our gift for us and others.

Every one of us has a gift and our purpose is to discover it and give it to the world.

Am I 100% my true essence every day? Absolutely not, but I am on the path to achieving that. Will I achieve it in this lifetime? Maybe not, who knows, as the future does not exist beyond the ramblings of my mind. It doesn’t matter either, I’ll come back and continue the journey.

All that matters is this moment now, the eternal present moment where all life and experience exist. When we experience anything it is always now. If we stay in this ‘now’ moment we move beyond our thought and by simply being we are able to manifest our gift and create what we truly desire to create and experience.

That’s what matters not thousands of thoughts.

Breaking the cycle

Posted on by philipdodson

We often get stuck in a rut in life. I have been recently struggling with getting up at a regular time and then sleeping heavily. This then means I miss an important time of the day when the world is still silent and there is a moment to complete my daily rituals that ground me, bring me into the day and help me to form habits in other parts of my life.

I used excuse upon excuse but I was causing myself great suffering because I was saying that  I will get up at 6 am and then not do it. That was bringing a lack of trust in myself, it was compromising my integrity, causing doubt, and negativity, and prohibiting me from doing the deeply meaningful work that I want to do.

Integrity is about doing what you say, not just with others, but more importantly with ourselves. We can not be true to others if we do not first become true to ourselves. Integrity is about doing what you say when no one else is there.

Of course, there are going to be times that we cannot always do what we say, circumstances mean that we have to change our plans sometimes and, of course, we can be compassionate and kind to ourselves when for whatever reason, we just do not show up.

However, if we make it a constant thing, that we say one thing and then do not do it, then we are harming ourselves and others. We are killing our own self-confidence and trust in ourselves to be authentic and to show up.

Our worth is not affected ever by what we do or don’t do, we are still worthy and worthy of love no matter what. However, we can bring a great deal more joy, purpose and energy to ourselves and others by living by what we say and by endeavouring to live an integral life.

It is better to not commit to something than it is to commit and then not do it. The best is always to commit and do it.