Understanding without filters

Posted on by philipdodson

We all have a deep need to be seen and understood. Yet we spend so little time understanding others.

We are wrapped up in our needs and we have this expectation that others are seeing us as important. We expect others to understand us, but we are not prepared to understand them.

Equally, we do not communicate with others, we isolate ourselves, close ourselves off and then still expect others to understand us.

It is always better to start from a position of no expectation of others, it stops us from becoming disappointed and releases them from the burden of our expectations.

We have to be first to understand others and that requires us to listen. Listening is a challenge for us all as we are not taught how to listen properly. True listening is being silent, listening to the other person from our hearts and listening to them how we would want others to listen to us…fully and completely without judgement, evaluation or interruption. Listening isn’t about a pause for us to think about what to say next, it isn’t about evaluating what the other person is saying, it isn’t about us or how it might affect us.

People want to be heard and seen not told and fixed. They do not want to hear about our story or for their story to be judged or corrected. Their truth is theirs, and their story is theirs. We are not the arbiter of that, or the person to correct what we have judged to be wrong about it. Our role is to listen to them empathetically and from a place of love, allowing them to be seen and know that they have been understood.

It is one soul seeing the soul of another and connecting with them as one without the filters of our minds.

When we are in flow

Posted on by philipdodson

When we get into our state of flow we are totally present in the moment, we are experiencing huge joy from the act of doing and we are not concerned with the outcome.

Flow is a state of pure consciousness where we are using the mind, which is the most amazing creative tool, to manifest what our soul desires. We are not energising our thought patterns, which normally take our consciousness away into an unconscious mind state where we are consumed by the outcomes and fears that they generate instead of the act of doing.

Being in flow is where we are engaged in deep work that comes from our very essence, it flows from our soul, it is joyful, creative, enriching and is giving our gift to the world.

When we are in our minds we are doing shallow, disjointed things that serve little purpose to us or the world and are part of the malaise of busyness that dominates.

We perceive that we are busy and yet it is soulless and without joy. We are denying ourselves, our souls, the opportunity to live the life we want.

When we go deep and become fully in this moment, then we are able to do the most amazing things and really connect with what matters. Deep work is something we are all capable of doing we just need to practice, like anything, and we just need to allow ourselves to go into that flow of energy and go with it, not be fearful of the outcome, just focused on the pure joy of creating something now.