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The harsher we are with ourselves the harsher we are with others

Posted on by philipdodson

We have to be understanding to others as no one is exactly on our page they are on their own unique page…maybe close to ours but maybe further away too. That doesn’t matter.

No ones page is right our wrong, it’s just different. We have to accept that, If we can’t accept others as they currently are we won’t be accepting of ourselves and that only leads to suffering and disconnection.

No one person will ever be exactly what we want, so we have to be compassionate or accept we’ll be alone.

We have to cherish what connects us not what separates us. We are conditioned to catch people doing something wrong not thanking them for what they do right.

We are all at different parts of our journeys and no ones is better or worse, just different.

However, if we have high expectations of others to match our rules or exacting expectations then no one will ever be good enough.

We have to be prepared to be flexible and compassionate or face the consequences of being too harsh with ourselves and others.

We can’t give to others what we don’t give to ourselves

Posted on by philipdodson

We can’t give to others what we don’t give to ourselves.

If we don’t love ourselves we can’t love others. If we are not kind to ourselves we can’t give it to others. If we have no compassion for ourselves then we can’t be compassionate with others. If we do not show ourselves empathy and understanding then we will not see and understand others.

Understanding is a powerful thing that we all seek and yet we do not start with ourselves. We do not take the time to own or be accountable for our journeys. When we own them we can learn and write a different story. We can then seek to understand others too. All to often we fill in the gaps with ourselves and make up stories and we do e we it’s others too.

Equally, what we give to ourselves, we give to others. If we are angry, fearful, unkind, harsh, judging, shaming, and so on, of ourselves then we will treat others the same. If we are kind, compassionate, loving and understanding with ourselves we will be with others.

Inner peace comes from treating ourselves kindly and outer peace follows.

It all starts with us. The world is what we create from our inner state.