Only us

Only we can solve our challenges in life.

Sure we can get ideas and get support from others. Of course, help from others can inspire us but that’s it, we have to do the doing. We have to commit.

Often though we look to the exterior world and others to provide us the answers to our problems that we actually already know the answer to. We hope they’ll fix us!

It is just we do not want to commit to the sacrifices needed to make those changes within. We are attached to our mind and its negative thought patterns so we are in a state of fear within. Also, we become the suffering, it becomes our story, our persona and therefore the ego does not want change and it will sabotage attempts to do so.

There is a strange comfort in our unhappiness and we fear making that first step to change.

We hide behind the things we can not control rather than take the steps ourselves.

Only we can know what the answer is for us and only we can make those changes. The first step is all we need to do and do it now. That way we detach ourselves from the fear of the mind and its sabotage. We free ourselves from thought by becoming in the moment and conscious. Thought can no longer frighten us.

Then we can take the next step and so on. One moment and one step at a time we can change anything we want. Each moment is a new start, a fresh beginning. However, once we start to think and look beyond now then we slip back into the mind.

A little step forward

As we all sit here on the 1st day of a new year pondering the tsunami of things we are going to change simply because the date has changed, just pause, then take the list of things to do and throw it away.

When we set ourselves these huge lists they are too much for the mind, they present too much change and therefore it’s risky, so the mind will sabotage. Also, willpower only lasts so long, so by the mid to end of January, most have given up.

Just pick something today that you can do, a small step towards changing one thing, and focus on that for a few weeks. Then pick another and so on.

Small, manageable and ‘easy’ daily steps take us forward and build like compound interest if we take the small step every day.

The tsunami of change always fails. Take a little step now.