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What to do when fear comes knocking?

Posted on by philipdodson

When the challenge comes, when the voice comes, when the fear arrives, when the doubt comes, when the old habits resurface, what do I do?

I allow my inner voice, my inner child, and my fears to be seen, to be understood, I welcome them as a guide and sign. I do not reject them or judge them, I simply hear them, understand them and allow them to be seen. I then offer my empathy, a hug, a there-there and I reassure my mind and my inner child that everything will be OK. I am here for them, I will support them, the universe is with me and all things will be OK.

I have to learn to trust that, I have to reassure those fears that everything will always be OK, no matter what and I have to lean into those fears and realise that I am moving forward and growing, which will always bring fear and uncertainty. The mind does not like change and fears any kind of risk to the status quo.

I am fearing moving on from my comfort zone, which is in fact, a discomfort zone, my soul wants to break out and be free and express itself and do all the amazing things that it wants to do. However, the mind and the ego want none of that, the inner child is frightened and all the old repeating habits and sabotage are being dug up to prevent me from moving on. Time to give them all a reassuring hug and support them and embrace those feelings and own them. Take a leap into the unknown…it’s where all the magic is.

It is a battle, but it is not a battle that has to be a negative fight or a struggle, it is one that my warrior spirit is going to lovingly work on to reassure my inner child that all will be alright, it is fine to step out onto the stage and be in the light, nothing will happen and everything will be ok.

If we learn how to nurture, protect, reassure and understand our inner child, mind and ego and give it a hug and support it, then it will be at peace too. When we resist it, fight it and create this inner conflict, then it naturally defends itself and will not be in alignment with ourselves.

In order to move on and be brave enough to be our true selves, we have to bring ourselves in alignment with our mind and body. Mind, body and soul in total alignment.

We are amazing and in order to allow that amazement to shine we have to be able to work in partnership with our mind and our body and we have to respect them and be with them. If we fight them and try to control them then it will create resistance.

Reassuring our inner child is key to helping us let go of fear and allowing fear to become our friend, to be our guide, and to walk hand and hand with it down our path. Fear is not bad or good, it just is and when we accept that and partner with it, lean into it and of with it, then we can overcome the fear and grow. We can achieve our very best when we embrace fear and do not fear the fear.

Inner and outer acceptance

Posted on by philipdodson

Accepting what is, is different from outwardly accepting everything passively that has occurred.

What has already occurred in the world, in life, at this exact moment can not be altered, as soon as it happens it instantly becomes the past, it is gone, unalterable. Therefore, for peace within and to not suffer from others’ actions, and for the sake of our mental and physical state, it is best to always accept it as it is, futile to do anything else.

However, that does not mean that we have to choose to be completely passive about everything that has occurred, equally, we do not have to be combative and aggressive either. When we accept all within, it allows us to act from a place of peace and calm within and without becoming the reaction that our mind and ego would want. Therefore, when we do act, it is more likely to be received without others needing to react aggressively. When we are calm, yet true to ourselves, others will be calm and more ready to hear us and understand us.

For example, I accept that there are people who choose to be cruel to animals, however, I am not going to be outwardly passive if witnessed someone being cruel to an animal, I would act to prevent it as it goes against my values.

There is a big difference between accepting what is and how we choose to act. Accepting what is, is essential to be able to act from a place of inner calm and take out our agendas and ego. However, if there are things that go against our truth, against our values, or threaten us or the people we love, then we can act and protect what matters to us.

Acceptance within is not about being uncaring or passive, it is about not suffering within from other peoples’ actions and choices. We can accept, however, we do not have to agree or be silent. We can choose how we act always, and sometimes there are situations where we choose to not act, this is fine too. However, we should never be fearful of saying our truths and acting according to our hearts and values.